New ABC drama shines light on Holly Springs father's mission to break the silence about suicide

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Thursday, September 27, 2018
Holly Springs dad breaks silence about suicide
Larry Bernstein lost a son to suicide in 1992.

HOLLY SPRINGS, N.C. (WTVD) -- In Wednesday night's premiere of "A Million Little Things," we were introduced to a tight-knit group of Boston friends suddenly coping with unexpected grief when one friend takes their own life.

Here in Holly Springs, it's a kind of grief that Larry Bernstein has coped with for 26 years.

Bernstein's 20-year old son, Michael, committed suicide May 5, 1992. Bernstein never saw it coming.

"We didn't watch it. You look back and wonder was there a diagnosis that should've been there, was he depressed," Bernstein pondered. "I'll never know."

A month after his son's suicide, Bernstein prepared to quit his job at IBM for a new career as a social worker. And, he started a therapy group -- inviting other parents and friends, "Survivors of Suicide," to process their pain together.

"I often describe it as a club that nobody wants to be a member of," Bernstein said.

Even with the premiere of "A Million Little Things," Bernstein said suicide is a topic that society is still way too uncomfortable talking about.

He challenged people to "talk to each other and let's reduce the stigma. Let's talk about this subject called suicide because we don't handle it correctly."

We went to Dr. Amanda McGough, a licensed clinical psychologist, for help in how to talk about suicide with children.

"We set the tone as parents," McGough said. Her advice for parents is to stay calm and warm; don't let your own nervousness create an even larger stigma around the subject.

"Parents may be afraid that if they bring up the subject of suicide and ask their children about it, that they are planting an idea. We know through research that is absolutely not true," McGough said. "We need to talk about this issue. Silence is suicide's best friend. We've got to break that silence."

Larry Bernstein made breaking the silence his mission.

His group, Triangle Survivors of Suicide is holding its annual fundraising walk next month -- raising awareness and money for local suicide-prevention groups.

It's the new life's work from a father who says he can't do anything for his son now but can make a difference for other people.

If you are in crisis, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at (800) 273-TALK (8255) or contact the Crisis Text Line by texting TALK to 741741